He who does not attempt to make peace
When small discords arise,
Is like the bee's hive which leaks drops of honey
Soon, the whole hive collapses.
- Nagarjuna (c. 100-200 A.D.).

title
.

KIDS CHALLENGING BEHAVIOUR...

LA NON-VIOLENCE EN MILIEU SCOLAIRE

.

Children today are tyrants
They contradict their parents, gobble their food,
and tyrannize their teachers.
What will become of them?
This world is truly coming to an end.
- Socrates, 470-399 B.C.

A D.H. LAWRENCE PARODY

Ursula Brangwen at the IUFM, 19th century style!

"I do feel terribly frightened," said Ursula. "The children are so --"
"What?" said Miss Harby, entering at that moment.
"Why," said Ursula, "Mr Brunt says I ought to tackle my class,"and
she laughed uneasily.
"Oh, you have to keep order if you want to teach," said Miss Harby,
hard, superior, trite.

Ursula did not answer. She felt non-valid before them.

"If you want to be let to _live_, you have," said Mr Brunt.
"Well, if you can't keep order, what good _are_ you?" said Miss Harby.
"An' you've got to do it by yourself," -- his voice rose like
the bitter cry of the prophets. "You'll get no _help_ from anybody."
"Oh indeed!" said Miss Harby. "Some people can't be helped."

And she departed.

PARENTS : persons who spend half their time worrying how a child will turn out,
and the rest of the time wondering when a child will turn in. ~Ted Cook.

How to deal with a rude teenager - excellent !

A parent's & Teacher's Handbook
on identifying and preventing Child Abuse : warning signs, choosing a daycare center and babysitter, keeping children safe on the Internet. Dr Monteleone,
G.W. Medical Publishing.

Le décalage entre les attentes des enfants ou des adolescents et les réponses de l'entourage, parents, enseignants ou société des adultes, entraînent souvent des déceptions, des frustrations et des ressentiments contre celle ou celui qui n'apporte pas la réponse attendue...

Quelques interrogations sur les sources banales de la violence.

Comment... élever des enfants : originale opération citoyenne à l'école primaire de Cuon (F-49150).

School Zone - educational resource for students, teachers, parents: for high schoolers - for mid-schoolers - for lower-schoolers.

Increased behavior problems in schools -
explanation?

Disciplinehelp.com - just what it says.

Meeting multicultural America's heritage challenges in communities.

Raising your child with skill, humor, inventiveness...

Mural: Powerful is not he who knocks the other down, indeed, powerful is he who controls himself
in a fit of anger. -K. Gibran.

VOUS AVEZ DIT LA TRICHE?

... cheating, I name "sharing".
If a student "shares" his/her answers during a test with another student,
then he/he also shares the grade... If he/she shared with one student,
then the grade is divided in half.

If the answers were shared with two others, then each gets a third
of the grade, and so on. I inform the students of this policy of mine
before the first test and, if necessary, before every subsequent
test and quizz.

If, in spite of warnings and two different test forms for larger
classes, I detect this "sharing" act while checking the tests (usually by
coming across the same wrong answers or an unusual misspelling repeated
in several students' papers) I don't have to lead an inquisition: all
are equally to blame. In a relatively bright class, everyone catches on
after the first incident.

I have operated according to this policy for thirteen years.
So far, no parent or administrator has raised any objection.
Nina S., ETNI.

.

"Discipline comes far, far behind communication in our list of priorities.
It is the wish to communicate which should be treasured once it is present.
And it is difficult to preserve it when it is submitted to all sorts of
rules, particularly for 13 year old kids..." Phil & Clau.


POSITIVE DISCIPLINE
Jane Nelsen's positive solutions site:

an Adlerian approach, a nonviolent way of raising children
with love and respect at home and at school.

The main principles Jane teaches are :

  • mistakes are opportunities to learn
  • do not think that to make children do better we first have to make them feel worse
  • a misbehaving child is a discouraged child
  • the feeling behind what you do is more important than what you do
  • encouragement is the most powerful motivation for change
  • look for improvement, not perfection
  • make sure the message of love gets through
  • go for solutions, not for ways to inflict shame, blame and pain.


HINTS, FROM A RETIRED TEACHER

> Here are some tips from the past and from my days as a teacher trainer, which may still work for those who are having a tough time.

All these worked for me in the past, and I see them working for the teachers with whom I have contact today :

    1. Show the class you enjoy teaching them. Enthusiasm does work.
    2. Be definite about what you demand of them, and consult them whenever possible.
    3. Give short tests and return them immediately. Return everything as soon as possible.
    4. Vary your introductions and activities.
    5. Get as many students as possible involved in projects, eg school newspaper, drama, exhibitions, competitions and contacts outside school.
    6. Work closely with the home room teacher. If you are one, consult other teachers of your class.


La solution aux grands problèmes commence au niveau de chacun.
Josiane Laval, prof de LP, travaille à partir de deux sites, utilisables
de la 4è au Lycée:

D'autres utiles ressources sont ici sur


MEDIATION
PEDAGOGIE DU CHANGEMENT

Approche constructive des conflits,
Gestion de l'agressivité,
Education non-violente...
LE CUN DU LARZAC ,
Rte de St-Martin,
F-12100 Millau,
tél. 05 65 60 62 33.

It is important that students bring a certain ragamuffin, barefoot, irreverence to their studies; they are not here to worship what is known, but to question it. - J. Bronowski, The Ascent of Man. Quotes

.

The Law and Discipline in the Classroom, by Ruth M. Wilson - law and how it can work for or against a student or faculty member.

To quote the site Improving child behavior, "many behaviors labeled as Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) are a child's active response to complex social, emotional, and educational influences. These children are not disordered.

They may have a different style of thinking, attending, and behaving, but it's the broader social and educational influences that create the disorder, not the children... the behaviors, difficulties, and learning shortfalls noted by parents and teachers do exist, but there are better - though more demanding - solutions than a medical diagnosis and knee-jerk medication for every child whose behavior and/or attention don't match our norms..."

The site offers some alternatives to medication:

  • Provide a Balanced Breakfast
  • Limit Television and Video Games
  • Discover Your Child's Personal Learning Style
  • Give Instructions in attention-grabbing ways
  • Spend Positive Times Together
  • Provide Your Child with Access to a Computer
  • Have Your Child Teach a Younger Child...

adding that whether a candidate for medication or not, parents and teachers owe it to that child to teach behavioral skills, self-esteem, and identify the best learning environment.

When children challenge parents and teachers

Alternative to toxic medication.

Handle them all - over 100 problem behaviours, what motivates kids to act out. Going about changing the behavior.
> impressionnante classification de tous comportements d'élèves, analyse, solutions, conseils utiles..." - Christine Reymond.

possessed kid
an animation by Callahan, our tetraplegic artist.

.
HUMEURS
"Quand vous bachotez comme un taré pour les concours de recrutement, vous pouvez vous attendre à sécher sur Malebranche, si vous avez fait l'impasse, mais vous ne vous doutez pas que les élèves vous poseront des colles infiniment plus embarrassantes - et autrement plus cruciales..."
- Hugo Gâtinais, Journal d'un prof de campagne.

.

IF, HAD, DID, MIGHT...
'If a doctor, lawyer, or dentist had 40 people in his office at one time,
all of whom had different needs, and some of whom didn't want to be
there and were causing trouble, and the doctor, lawyer, or dentist, without
assistance, had to treat them all with professional excellence for nine months,
then he might have some conception of the classroom teacher's job.'
- Donald O. Quinn.


Medication or parent training? from National Education News (USA) : Teachers under pressure to recommend drugs.

Teachers, psychiatrists, family doctors and drug companies have approved of the Clinton administration's plan to reduce the large numbers of pre.schoolers who are getting Ritalin, Prozac and other powerful medications without being properly evaluated by doctors.

One factor is that often teachers come under pressure to recommend a medical solution to a child's learning orbehavioral problem because school districts do not have enough counselors, nurses, social workers and school psychologists.

Ritalin is used to treat attention deficit disorder, the most commonly diagnosed psychiatric disorder in children. Experts now recommend that before a preschooler is prescribed Ritalin, the parents should be trained in behavior modification techniques to help the child.

Many parents who bring in children to the doctor requesting Ritalin have not had their children fully evaluated. Ritalin has not been approved for children under the age of six. Prozac is not approved for kids under the age of 18, yet federal officials say that doctors had often prescribed Prozac for children... - Robert Pear, "Effort on Mood Drugs for Young is Backed", The New York Times, March 21, 2000, A18. © Simpson Communications. All rights reserved.
-


--


Aider un enfant à décrocher du perfectionnisme, c'est lui montrer qu'il est aimé
et accepté pour ce qu'il est, et que cet amour ne dépend pas de ses performances.
C'est se guérir de la tentation d'avoir
un enfant trophée.- Douance

Site expérimental, non officiel...
lire cet avertissement
. This is an independent, experimental site... see the disclaimer.

La Page d'Agreg - Page indépendante
tiçage
Jean S. Sahai, PLP2, Guadeloupe, Antilles Françaises.

Agreg Page - since December 1996
© Jean S. Sahaï, 1996-2011
Guadeloupe, French West Indies.